I while back I was at a dinner party with a friend. My friend was pregnant with her first child. She was expressing a fear that I think a lot of parents have. She was afraid her daughter would become a person she could not relate to. She said that she was worried that her daughter would grow up to be in to football and cheer leading and make up and all of the things that she knew nothing about. Another woman at the table said, "If you don't raise her to be that way then she won't turn out like that." It just made me chuckle.
Every single one of my children were born with their very own personality. If I would have chosen for them how they would have turned out...well...I would have gotten it all wrong. My oldest "Ivy" is 12. She never wanted to wear the clothes that I picked out for her. She never wanted to read the books I loved as a child. And you know what? That is okay. She has her own style, she likes her own things. I loved to read historical fiction when I was her age. She is writing her own fantasy novel. I liked rock music, she loves top 40. I was in art, she loves the theater and dance. I love that she is her own person. I wouldn't change a thing about her. I may not understand her all the time, but I love her.